You love them, pure and simple. They will make you crazy, fight you tooth and nail, but then you go check on their fuzzy little heads after they fall asleep and big or little, you will sigh because you love them.
Whenever you begin a new system or a new phase, or anything new, it is very easy to be tempted to give up. Surely the end result isn’t worth the battle, you may think. But I’ve learned that more often than not, the end result IS worth the battle. That goes for everything from potty training, to chore charts to homework. Our job is to raise our children to leave home, to teach them the skills they need to survive in the world without us. If I asked you if you wanted your 30 year old child to still be living at home, I would bet most of you would be shaking your head no.
So what does that have to do with being Persistent?
When we started our current chore system, the kids began with enthusiasm…for about 3 days. Then, they began to try to get away with doing less, and less. I have many times had the thought that it would be less painful to just do the chores myself. But what does that teach them? If I give up and do it for them, it teaches them that if they whine loud enough, they will get their way. If I don’t keep on them, they learn to be lazy. If there are no consequences for their lack of work ethic, I am teaching them that laziness pays off.
I’m fairly certain laziness won’t work well for them in their future work environment.
The seemingly small things we are teaching our children are lessons they will carry with them. It is imperative that we Persist, that we endure, and that we continue firmly.
Sometimes we DO need to make a change, but not a “That’s it! I’ve had it!” change. A change in the system or maybe a change in attitude.
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